What is a Cock Block and 11 Reasons Why They Do it!
Ever tried to impress a girl only to be ridiculed or stopped by her friend or another guy? Find out what a cock block is and why they do that darn thing!
A long time ago, I bumped into a girl at a café.
I didn't know where she studied or worked, but we would run each other every now and then.
I really wanted to get to know this pretty girl, but well, the right opportunity never presented itself until that day.
Both of us were standing in the same line for coffee, so I looked at her and smiled.
She smiled back.
I said “hello”.
She smiled again.
“We see each other all the time, but it's so unfair that I could never get to talk to you,” I said and introduced myself.
She introduced herself, smiled a little more, and started talking back.
Hardly a minute into the conversation, a not-so-pretty friend of hers walked up to her *she was sitting at one of the tables until then* and stood in between us like a prison guard.
Awkward silence.
Not wanting to sound rude, I looked towards the friend, smiled, and said hello. She didn't smile. I introduced myself. Her friend just grimaced. “I'm sorry, but I didn't get your name” I said, trying to sound as friendly as I could.
She looked at me sharply, and said, “That's because I didn't give it to you!”
I was taken aback. The girl I was trying to talk to seemed embarrassed too.
Awkward silence again.
A few seconds passed, and once the pretty girl and her friend got their coffee, the not-so-pretty friend just caught the pretty girl's arm and dragged her out of the café!
The pretty girl did turn around though, and smiled an awkward goodbye smile which I responded to.
What is a cock block?
I didn't know the phrase back then, I was still a young kid. But what I experienced was the perfect definition of a cock block.
You try to chat up a girl and impress her, or you try to get her to sleep with you. And someone, male or female, her friend or yours, prevents you from getting another notch on your bed post by intervening in some manner or the other!
Specifically speaking, cock blocker is a phrase that's used most commonly to define a person who blocks you from having sex with a girl. But if someone stops you from talking to a girl or hitting on her, you can definitely call them a cock blocker too!
Why do people cock block?
A guy could be cock blocked for so many reasons. Sometimes, it could be her friend's jealousy, and at other times, it could be another guy who's trying to compete for the same girl. And in many common scenarios, it could also happen unintentionally, when a friend or a stranger just can't take a hint and give the guy and the girl some space.
If you know a person's motive behind the cock blocking, of course, you can hate them for it. But unfortunately, you can't confront it without appearing weaker or looking like an idiot.
So if you're ever cock blocked by someone, learn to deal with it by using an alternative strategy to get the girl into bed. Just don't lose your cool or your temper, because doing that shows that you're not in control of the situation anymore!
Unintentional cock blocks
Many people cock block for fun. If you're chatting with a really pretty girl at a party, a friend of yours could walk up to you and say something like “hey, how's your girlfriend?” or “your girlfriend's looking for you!”
Of course, the second the pretty girl hears that, she's always going to eye you with suspicion even if you tell her that your friend was just kidding around.
But sometimes, cock blocking could happen unintentionally. *even if you hate the person for it!*
If two girls come to a party together, and you find one of them pretty attractive and start chatting her up, her friend may stop her from getting a drink with you because she doesn't want to be left alone. And considering the fact that two girls at a party like to stick together, there's not much you can do about it, unless the girls are wild enough to experiment on a threesome!
Or if an old friend of yours bumps into you at a party when you're talking to a girl, your old friend who hasn't seen you in ages may assume it's alright to stick around and talk to both of you.
And of course, you can't just shoo the third person away, because that'll just make your intention clear that you're trying to seduce a girl, and don't need anyone around.
Times when cock blocking is completely valid
Now as much as cock blocking sucks and any of us can fall prey to it, intentionally or otherwise, sometimes, cock blocking can be completely valid too.
Sometimes, an overprotective friend or a sibling of the girl could block you from trying to get the girl into bed. And in some circumstances, it could be the girl's boyfriend who's getting in the way. Of course, the girl may introduce you as just a new friend, but if the boyfriend sees you as a threat, he'd say or do anything to get you away from here.
11 reasons why girls and guys cock block
If you're at a party and trying to get the attention of a great girl, chances are, there are several other guys trying to do the same thing. Of course, many of these guys may not feel confident enough to approach her though. So if you do get cock blocked while talking to a girl, here are 11 reasons why it may happen to you.
#1 You're an easy target. Some guys just don't have what it takes to carry an interesting conversation with a girl. You may be talking to her, but to other guys around you, you may seem like an easy pushover who doesn't deserve to talk to that girl. And if a guy isn't threatened by you, he'll use you and make fun of you, and steal the girl away from you.
#2 The girl is bored. So you introduced yourself to the girl, and you're talking to her. But does she seem bored? Are there long moments of awkward silence, or is she looking around the room often? It's a clear sign that there's no chemistry and she's already bored of you. Her own friends may get her away from you, or another guy may step into the conversation.
#3 Her protective friend. The girl you're hitting on may have had one too many drinks and her annoying friend who seems like a cock blocker may just be protecting her from making a mistake she'll regret in the morning.
#4 You're not approved. The girl's friends don't approve of you, or they don't think you're right for her. And they'd do anything to pull her away from you, including badmouthing you or snubbing you and pulling her away from you.
#5 Her jealous friend. If you're flirting with an attractive girl and she's come to the party with a not-so-attractive friend, chances are, her not-so-attractive friend may get jealous and really annoyed with the girl who's hogging all the attention. And instead of trying to find some guy to talk to, her friend may intervene and pull her friend away from you or cling on to her to make sure she's not getting some with you.
#6 Your competitive friend. Your friend may want her too, and as much as he pretends to help you, he may be undermining you and making you look bad. He could pretend to be your wingman, and in the middle of the conversation, he may start badmouthing you and make you look bad, just so he can come off as the better guy and impress her better. This is a very common scenario when you use a wingman.
#7 The outside competition. You may be talking to a girl for a while, but just as you leave her alone for a few minutes to get both of you another drink, another smooth talker may enter the picture and start flirting with her. You can't obviously chase the guy away because it's a party, and you can't walk away too. You just have to come across as the better guy, or ask the girl if she'd like to step out with you for some fresh air.
#8 Confused girls. You may have started flirting with two friends at once, even though you just liked one of the girls. And now they're confused whom you like, and both the girls end up just cock blocking each other. Just make it clear which girl you like early into the conversation, or you may end up leaving one girl confused and bitter. *unless, both girls want to have some fun together*
#9 The crush effect. You're talking to a girl, but her friend is cock blocking you like there's no tomorrow. If her friend tries to get your attention or tries sweet talking you, there's a good chance that her friend has a crush on you and she has no intention of letting you go home with another girl.
#10 Your jealous friend. Sometimes, you don't need a wingman that turns rogue to show off his cock blocking side. Even a jealous, shy guy who's a friend of yours could turn out to be a big cock blocker, especially if he has a crush on the girl you're trying to seduce. Of course, he may not have the courage to ask her out himself, but he'd definitely try to sabotage your night by intervening often.
#11 Evil fun. Some friends are just sadistic pricks who want to have fun at your expense, and for no good reason beyond having a good laugh. You may be chatting up a girl, and a friend of yours may pop in and try to pull your leg or ridicule you, or may talk about an ex of yours just to make you look bad. Thankfully though, if the girl you're talking to likes you already, she may laugh it off. But if you're still trying to make an impression, well, the odds may swing either ways.
A cock block is something you'll experience, intentionally or otherwise, every now and then. There's not much you can do to avoid it or stop it. But as long as you take it in your stride and avoid letting it get to you, you'd still be the one who takes the girl home!
